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[Dimity]

Sorry to hear  that @Patches59 . A couple of my great grandparents faced hard times too,  as did succeeding generations. It's sad when people are hurt, traumatised and/or unhappy and maybe intergenerational carryover happens. I have no knowledge of earlier forebears but no doubt they had their troubles too. Hopefully with compassion and understanding we  can ease the path of younger ones.

But there were happy times too. I've seen newspaper references to my grandparents' weddings on Trove. And my maternal grandmother said she'd never regretted eloping and emigrating although she was disowned (!).

[Patches59]

Inter generational trauma has impact people on my generation plus next generation.

Younger relative I’m supporting has recently found his guy he has called dad for approx 30yrs is not his bio dad, his bio father is unknown.  Guy he has called dad may not see end of the yr due to impact of decades of SH

My grandmother was proud of her dad, taught me about him being original ANZAC.  Earliest photos I ever saw of her until recently were from her wedding.  She taught me heaps more about her deceased husband

[Dimity]

@Patches59 that's sad about your relatives. I wonder if the younger one might consider DNA testing. It's had a lot of publicity but I don't know how useful it is for Australians. 

The older one likely has trauma or other issues underlying his SH. I hope he's getting help although the prognosis is bad.

My grandfather wasn't at ANZAC Cove but he fought in Flanders or France in WW1. My father fought in New Guinea in WW2. 

I hope you get a good night's sleep tonight. You'll have a big day tomorrow. 

[Patches59]

It’s complicated @Dimity    In brief

Older one is one of my first cousins, his life was negatively impacted by actions of both parents commencing when he was a toddler.  Only help he gets is for physical health when he ends up in hospital.

younger one displayed signs first year in primary school he had grown up in DV (or similar) environment.

younger one did DNA test just for fun as part of school family tree project of one of his children. That is where everything started from.

[Dimity]

Oh dear that must have been devastating for the family @Patches59 .

Unfortunately DV seems to be quite pervasive. And it isn't just the stereotypical adult male on adult female. 

A pharmacist tried to get me to do a DNA test for free once - said he'd only charge if I wanted to upload it - but I mistrusted why he wanted the data. 

[NatureLover]

Thanks for your kind words, @tyme . I'm in Vic too so the daylight savings will help. Although it won't help with my dawn walk which will now be later, I think.

Hope all's well with you...

[Dimity]

Thinking of you and hoping all went well @Patches59