19-06-2019 09:06 PM
I don't know how I got to this position in life but it's real and painful. I've tried to reconnect with an old friend and just like other attempts at connecting people just talk about themselves non stop and don't ask about me at all. I'm a good listener and an introvert which doesn't help. I find that it's the same with work colleagues. Basically I only talk to people at work then go home to no one apart from my pets but they can't talk back 😂 What the heck do I do? Why won't people reciprocate?
19-06-2019 09:32 PM
Welcome to the forums. I'm one of the moderators. It sounds like you're struggling with these social interactions where you are really looking for some space or questions to allow you to share what is going on for you, but you haven't been given that opportunity. And you are feeling really isolated right now. It's good you're reaching out on the forums.
I hope to see you on here more. What pets do you have? You might be interested in this pets as therapy discussion here.
You can also introduce yourself here if you would like.
19-06-2019 12:36 AM - edited 19-06-2019 12:37 AM
Welcome to the forum
You're not alone in your problem- many people have similar issues. I bet you're a very sensitive and kind person. I also struggle with similar issues. Hopefully we can help each other through this. Here if you need to talk. What type of pets do you have? I have two dogs and they're my world.
19-06-2019 08:22 AM
Hi @Kit108 , its nice to meet you. I'm in a similar position myself. It's pretty frustrating and hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. There are a few threads that discuss this topic in some detail. One way i've found to make new friends is by doing volunteer work if you have the time. The trouble I have is I struggle to maintain friendships over time and people don't seem to care about Me enough to keep up.
Theres an app and website called meetup that you could look at. I don't have any experience with it. I did have a quick look at the website a whle back. Hopefully they have some groups in your area if you look into it. Wishing you well.
19-06-2019 02:03 PM
20-06-2019 10:44 PM
Welcome to the forum @Kit108, and thanks for sharing with us Connecting with others on a deep level can be a real challenge, and often takes time to grow organically (which can be frustrating when most people only want to talk about themselves, as you mentioned). Have you done any reading on social dynamics and building bonds with people?
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