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14-04-2019 02:36 PM
14-04-2019 02:36 PM
Navigating relationships
@Owlunar@ali11 relationships are not easy. It can cause lots of heartaches.
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14-04-2019 03:18 PM
14-04-2019 03:18 PM
Re: Navigating relationships
Hi @Meowmy , I totally agree with you. Friendships are hard and with a mental illness it makes them even harder. That is why I value my forum friends on here so much more. I still know it is not the same as having those friendships in real life...
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14-04-2019 03:24 PM
14-04-2019 03:24 PM
Re: Navigating relationships
@Snowie @Not easy to get the appropriate distance right and feelings often can be confusing. With MI, hard to know if the other party would have much prejudice.
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14-04-2019 03:31 PM
14-04-2019 03:31 PM
Re: Navigating relationships
Since my mental illness I have lost lots of friendships. Not sure if it is them not knowing how to deal with me or me pushing people away. I seem to think it is the later. We certainly go into our own little bubble.
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14-04-2019 03:34 PM
14-04-2019 03:34 PM
Re: Navigating relationships
@Snowie @I did the same thing for twenty years. Lately I had been stable and contacted a few of them. Some of them quite happy to reconnect. So it may worth the efforts.That also seem to help my sense of loss too.
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14-04-2019 03:39 PM
14-04-2019 03:39 PM
Re: Navigating relationships
Glad you have contacted a few of them @Meowmy Hopefully you can have good and supporting friendships with them. Well done for reaching out to them
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14-04-2019 09:17 PM
14-04-2019 09:17 PM
Re: Navigating relationships
Hi, yes I totally understand that.
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14-04-2019 09:34 PM
14-04-2019 09:34 PM
Re: Navigating relationships
@Snowie @Bentpole-01 I think friendships are slow to build and reconnect. I am just making baby steps of recovery and finding friendships again.
May be having MI teaches us some thing deep and richer that we can connect with more meaningful friends over time.@ali11
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15-04-2019 09:31 AM
15-04-2019 09:31 AM
Re: Navigating relationships
Yes, it's slow to try and reconnect. I think also you have to make a choice to walk away from a friendship vs staying and hoping people with make the effort to stay connected.
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19-04-2019 10:39 AM
19-04-2019 10:39 AM
Re: Navigating relationships
@Snowie I tried to reach out to a coworker whom I have worked with for six months. She is a single mum and asked me for some relationship issues. I offered to walk together during the Easter break, but she said she has to sort out her house. So may be next time. I am organizing a lunch with a few people I knew before my illness for in two weeks. So I feel a bit more connected.
Hope you feel better and enjoy some connections you like.