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[Dimity]

Hello @Former-Member .

I'm so sorry I seem to have habitually upset you. I've always tried to meet you where you're at, and never intentionally criticised or excluded you. I tried sometimes to make positive suggestions. I've respected your wishes when you've asked me not to communicate with you in your gardens thread and now in this thread, although my preference would have been to try to support you in your feelings of rejection and abandonment and reassure you that you're heard and respected.

I'm sad you won't be continuing your schema work with your psychologist.  I've just been asked to complete a schema assessment myself. Perhaps it will help inform me of how and why I've antagonised both you and a close relative, despite my efforts. I know for myself how the need for self-preservation can morph to resentment and anger..

I wish you well with your chronic pain journey, as difficult and challenging as it is, and I hope and trust Sonny and Luna continue to bring you joy.

@moderator please check I'm not  infringing community guidelines, and reach out to @Former-Member in her distress.

@tyme 

[Former-Member]

@Dimity in the garden thread the only thing I said was I didn’t want to discuss or hear anything to do with gardening.  I never asked for you to not talk about other topics.  Perfect example of what Ive referred to. Tired of saying things and reading reply that doesn’t align with what I’ve said. This is not first time Ive provided clarity over the confusion about the garden thread.  I don’t understand why this miscommunication issue keeps being raised

I have never said I will not be continuing schema therapy.  I have chosen to work with a different psychologist due to things she has done which has resulted in me loosing trust in her.

as for other things mentioned in above post, commenting and providing exact details will not resolve anything and possibly cause you to become upset.  I feel sorry for you that you feel situations have been as you believe they have been.

i was feeling quite calm and relaxed until reading about reply.  Going to find something to do, been left feeling frustrated and annoyed atm

i fail to understand why choosing to explain to you how I’m feeling has led you to decide to involve moderators.  

[tyme]

@Former-Member @Dimity , Please let us know if you'd like mods to support in anyway. 

[Former-Member]

Thanks for the offer @tyme 

from my perspective it’s not required. 💐

[Former-Member]

Hi @Dimity 

appears there has been various misunderstandings on this plus the garden threads. Due to these, one to one posts on this thread might not be the best.

Any thoughts etc?  Thoughts on posts on other threads?  (If ok to share)