@Dimity My FIL through the council had home cleaner. Only negative thing he ever mentioned was how often he would get a new lady. During 4mths one year I know he had 2 different ladies. He was always happy with whoever came though. I would have thought people applying to do the job would have to have evidence of their knowledge and level of cleaning.
totally understandable about the counsellor. Has she been able to fix her mess so you can get the sessions covered by MHCP?
schema therapy I have found helpful, my psychologist still trying different options to try to allow my brain to fully process all components of it. Even so, I’m feeling I need to move onto something different. Following Research plus a post on here I’ve sent her an email asking about ACT, hoping we can discuss on Friday. feel I need help with dealing with strong painful memories and emotions from events involving grief, earliest being when I was 9yo.
As far back as I can remember my normal involved parents who had aversion to finishing the inside of the house, cleaning and keeping things tidy. No disrespect mean to anyone by the following, both also never getting rid of things. 2 of my mothers siblings had same traits. Visitors meant a week of cleaning, not easy when only rooms that had floor coverings was the lounge room. One of my jobs was cleaning pedestal handbasin and bath, both only cleaned small number of times a year.
Going through my mums things after she passed away I found things that she had kept for decades including greeting cards than were 50+ years old.
knowledge has improved over the decades regarding children’s mental health. After my mum passed away I had black thoughts about ending everything. Local dr referred me to my first psychiatrist who, based on things I described to him, said Ihe fully believed I developed Separation Anxiety whilst in primary school. I was mid 40’s by that stage.
my psychologist has said control issues is something common with childhood age. Children that didn’t get chance to have control or input into things. As adults, inappropriate control is nothing unusual. Something that rings true for me.
I’ve gone back to writing list for today. Have essential things to get done and I know list will help with that.
cold, overcast and rainy morning so far. Perfect day to get things inside done.
tomorrow morning going to presentation by Travellers Aid. Hoping enough other people have indicated they are interested. If not, presentation will be cancelled. Public transport, especially trains, another area that causes anxiety. Tomorrow afternoon pain management post procedure review appointment.
