Feeling let down and over it

[beeboop]

I’ve had a lot of setbacks lately and been let down by several services and people in a short period of time. I’ve also had negative experiences with mental health professionals in the past that left me feeling invalidated or retraumatised, so my trust is already low.

I was meant to have my first call with a [edited by moderator] support worker a couple of days ago but they cancelled last minute. I get that things come up, but after so many let downs in a row it’s hard not to just expect it now. I’m exhausted and demotivated.

[tyme]

Hey there @beeboop ,

I'm sorry to hear that things have been so difficult for you and that you have felt let down so many times. 

I must be extremely difficult to have this happen and therefore, your feelings are valid.

At this point, what would be helpful for the community here to provide you? What would support look like? Whilst we can't replace the connections you have with your outside supports, we are here to listen.

Is there anything you'd like to unpack with the community?

[WaveGoodNight]

Here to see if it I can rebuild the trust.

May I ask if you are in NSW, I am organising to start my business into helping those who struggle with trauma by being present, which is one thing alot of people are missing out on. Sometimes it's the simple things that people need to rebuild..

I can be present, I can listen , you can give me a hug if it will make you feel better. I can give advice if you need or I can hold your hand so you can feel supported. I'm new here so please let me know if there is anything I can do

Take care 

[tyme]

Hey @WaveGoodNight ,

Welcome to the forums. 

Trauma is a huge. I think one of the biggest things is feeling heard. But to also understand boundaries in relation to attachments. It's not easy. 

As much as you put in supports to help a person, you also need to be able to help them help themselves.

[WaveGoodNight]

Thanks for that, appreciate your feedback.

They are helping themselves by reaching out, talking about their feelings, this is brave , this is someone who is looking for support, unfortunately everyone is different and everyone is looking for their clarity, being heard, finding relieve, getting want they need,

I'm may not be the answer, maybe I am, I reach out as a sign of good faith, having choices when you feel trapped, isolated. 

I help different people everyday in so many different ways, this is who I am, anyone and everyone is welcome if they need someone when they are not being seen. 

[tyme]

Feel free to tag me into your posts so I don't miss them @WaveGoodNight . You can do this by typing "@" in front of my name e.g. @tyme  That way, I'll get a notification.

I think it takes a certain character to be able to care and support people. It's not everyone. So I'm grateful for those who are.

[WaveGoodNight]

Thanks I will consider that.

Supporting and caring comes in some many forms, if everyone shows a little more kindness, just reaching out more and treat people as humans, we all can bring a more positive change to so many.

I see you are someone who is trying to make a real difference so good on you. Hopefully there are a few here who will put a little trust in me if they can not find the support they need.

[beeboop]

All I ever do is help myself. When I finally decide to reach out for support, I get let down. And when I share my frustration or disappointment, I’m met with generic “grounding techniques” instead of real understanding.

I give up.

[holdinghope5]

Hi @beeboop,

I'm sorry to hear how frustrating your experience has been. Different individuals have different wants and needs when it comes to getting support, and sometimes the support-provider may not be aware of what type of support you're after. 
Would you be able to let the person know that you're wanting to feel heard/validated and not be given grounding tools? Sharing what does and doesn't work can help your support team support you better.

You deserve to feel seen.

holdinghope5

[WaveGoodNight]

Of course you feel like giving up, because when you are open and trusting and in need of real support you are let down by people who don't feel what you are feeling.

Please don't believe that these is no one out there for you, it takes one person to change everything for you.

I know, telling your frustration over and over again, not only is draining but makes you feel helpless.

I reach out to see if I can help, I am no professional, no miracle work, just a human trying to reach out and support another human if possible. If I can help I'm in,

Every person who you reach out to  or people who reach out to you may be the one who finally gets you and understands and can give you want you seek. This is a forum and for some it's a good outlet but sometimes people need real help and understand.and just need to feel they are getting the support they need.

So is there anything that I can do?