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[Former-Member]

@Dimity  few weeks ago you wrote about having given up on bank complaint and having accepted payout.   
are you continuing with the bank complaint?

if yes, is that a good option?

Trust has to be earnt, it doesn’t just happen.  when trust is shattered, or partially broken, it’s not easy to retain it or rebuild it.  With things on and off the forums, my trust in certain people has been heavily tried and broken during last couple months

[Dimity]

Hi @Former-Member 

No I'm not reopening the bank complaint. But there's a lot to do in transferring my business to another bank, and I'm still working through it all. 

It sounds as though you've had a rough trot recently if so many people have let you down. 

I'm trying to rebuild trust with my counsellor. I'm not sure how to mend fractured family relationships, but the onus is on them to be receptive.

I saw on another thread that you asked about plant hooks for Colourbond fences. I googled and found hooks by Andihooks abd Ozgro. Years back I hoped for a Colourbond fence but neighbours went with palings.

I'll press on and hope my anxiety abates.

[Former-Member]

Would be nice if dealing with banks was a straight forward, easy process.  Sorry to hear things are not going that way for you currently @Dimity 

About 3mths ago I started trying to rebuild relationship with 2 specific relatives.  Hoped for mutually built bridges.  Conversations sounded promising.  Last comment came from them both.  Comments that turned out to not be true.   Left me feeling hurt and angry.  2 relatives who, due to their decisions, I no longer have anything to do with.

for peace of mind and stress levels, I think at times it’s not worth putting effort into people who don’t want to reciprocate.  My POAs and next of kin, I hear from them twice a year (if I’m lucky).  One of those unpleasant things that happens at times as people get older

[Dimity]

Must have been distressing for you with relatives @Former-Member . I'm cut off too.

[Former-Member]

Not really @Dimity   They made their decision to ghost me.  My decision has been to block them.  

as my therapist has said …. sometimes for one’s own MH and peace of mind need to set boundaries which involves not having certain people in one’s life, regardless of their connection.  

[rav3n]

hey @Dimity @Former-Member i'm heading off soon but i wanted to pop in and say hi!! how are you both going?

[Former-Member]

Hi @rav3n 

Last couple days been doona days due to upset stomach and focusing on my MH. I’m going good apart from that.

still processing things that have happened on the forums.

thanks for asking, much appreciated.

how are you @rav3n ?

[Dimity]

Hi @rav3n nice to see you. I've been out and haven't caught up today yet.

I've run out of puff. I'm safe though. Taking things quietly at present. 

Hope you're OK @Former-Member .

[Dimity]

Hi @Former-Member our posts crossed.

Hope the cats have kept you company on the doona and you're feeling better.

[rav3n]

@Former-Member oh nooo upset stomachs sounds rough, hope you take it easy and feel better soon!! i'm doing alright thanks. i've been getting ready for my interstate trip, trying not to procrastinate my packing!

have you been working on any lego/crafts? or given them a lil break for now?

@Dimity no stress, and glad to know you're safe. hope you get to rest up and recharge too!! have you got a lot going on this week?